All my life I’ve believed in god and been forced to go to church and pretty much overwhelmed by it all and now I’m sick of it, so fucking sick of it. I don’t know how to tell my dad that I’m pretty much agnostic and have been for awhile, he’ll be all disappointed and shit :/
Hey, since this is an open ended question, I thought I’d throw you some advice.
First off, if you think there’s any threat to your safety, like if your dad is abusive or will throw you out of the house or create an emotionally unstable environment for you, don’t tell him. You’re 17. You’ll be grown and out of his house before you know it. However, if this is a conversation you really feel you need to have with your dad and you’re confident that your safety and your relationship with him will remain stable, I suggest you have that conversation with yourself first. Ask what you believe and why. Ask yourself what you think the term “belief” means. When you think you’ve figured out your position well enough to explain it, wait for the right opportunity. Catch your dad in a reflective, open-minded, introspective mood and mention something about how you don’t really think all this god stuff passes the smell test. It’s not an assault on him as a person or a parent, you’re not saying he’s wrong or dumb or a bad dad (make that clear, because he may be offended. Religions specifically try to make people think that the religion is part of who they are, but it’s not) you’re just saying that your worldview just doesn’t have room for something so clearly fabricated or, at least, so poorly justified.
Would it perhaps soften the blow to explain that you have a moral gauge that seems to work for you in spite of pretending to be convinced of a magical spirit from a supernatural dimension? If your dad really thinks you need a book to dictate morality, I recommend Aesop’s Fables. It holds up quite a bit better than the Bible and, for my money, it’s more entertaining, too.