In each insistence you behave only because of the expectation of a reward. That’s not to say you wouldn’t behave otherwise, but you’re expecting something in return for your behavior is suspect. It suggests you wouldn’t be friendly if you didn’t think your get laid and it suggests you wouldn’t be moral if you didn’t expect heaven. But friendliness and morality are their own rewards. You don’t need sex to validate your friendliness and you don’t need heaven to validate your morality ad if you do, we’re you really at all friendly or moral to begin with?
Let’s play a game. It’s called “address fundamental misunderstandings of Christian teaching.” This post is a perfect place to start.
This oughta be good.
Any Christian who expects to go to heaven is not practicing Christianity correctly.
No true scotsman fallacy
The theological virtue “hope” is important to think about here. Hope (along with all virtues) is a balance. It is the center of a continuum between “despair”, and “assurance.”
Where does “knowledge” or “evidence” fall in this scale?
Despair is the conviction that you are a hopeless, worthless sinner and that you can never, under any circumstances, go to heaven. It is a sin, because it denies God’s power to save anyone, even the most evil among us. It is a lack of faith.
So, not only are sins sins, but feeling bad about your sins is also a sin? By the way, what exactly is God saving me from and why would he not save me just because I didn’t think he would?
Assurance is the conviction that you are locked and loaded to go into heaven, and that nothing can take that away from you. It is a sin, because it denies that you are a sinner. It is an overabundance of pride.
So, sinning is a sin, feeling despair about sinning is another sin and getting over that despair is also a sin. Is this really a guy you WANT to worship?
Hope, though, is the idea that you, despite your sinfulness, and your unworthiness, can be saved by God’s power, forgiveness, and love, and that through his grace, and no power of your own, you might one day enter heaven. It is a virtue.
So hope is a porridge neither too hot nor too cold. As long as you’re kept in this one mindset where you’re begging, your safe.
Now, “grace”. That word gets thrown around a lot without definitions. Let’s define it. Grace is
"…the free and undeserved help that God gives us to respond to his call to become children of God, adoptive sons, partakers of the divine nature and of eternal life.”
"Undeserved?" OOOO, that sounds despondent. I think you sinned.
Hm. That doesn’t sound like we’re asking God for anything. It sounds like, of his own free will (if we’re using the friendzone metaphor here), God is giving us not only permission, but an invitation to enter into eternal life with him.
I don’t know if the metaphor makes sense when you assert there really is a god. I said believing in heaven, not expecting heaven from a particular god.
"[Grace] depends entirely on God’s gratuitous initiative, for he alone can reveal and give himself."
Yikes, uh, that sounds startlingly like sexual consent #thefriendzonemetaphor
So, you believe if you’re hopeful then God will honor your invitation to heaven? You can’t see how that’s behaving in a particular manner in order to receive a reward?
And to top it all off:
God’s free initiative demands man’s free response, for God has created man in his image by conferring on him, along with freedom, the power to know him and love him. The soul only enters freely into the communion of love.
Yeah, I get it. Man is free to obey god or burn in hell. That’s some
ultimatum love he’s granted us.
Damn. So it looks like here, that God is 1. Giving man consent to enter heaven
Yeah, I’m starting to wonder if you understand that friendzoning isn’t the removal of consent. You’re thinking of rape.
and 2. Won’t let him/her enter there until man also gives that consent back.
Yeah, and someone pressured and manipulated into a relationship because of a preceding “friendship” is still giving consent, in that they weren’t physically forced, but the one doing the pressuring ain’t no prize pig.
So, hope and grace. We hope for heaven, but do not expect it, and receive utterly undeserved yet freely given grace from God that allows us to enter into his kingdom.
Besides the obvious question (according to what?!) you’re once again violating your despair rule by referring to good people as “utterly undeserving.” Plus, you’re revealing that you believe God is the one deciding who gets into heaven by saying he “allows” us to enter when earlier you said we’re all invited, as long as we meet some “just-right porridge” reuirements
It sure doesn’t sound like the friendzone to me.
You’re right, it’s way worse.